What’s the secret to getting ahead?

Mark Twain suggests that it is simply “getting started.”

I must admit…the core operating principle of my Martha persona has been for most of my life,  “get clear, and get moving.” But, I’m older now. (Sometimes I need a reminder of this reality!)  I seem, these days, to be choosing a more relaxing way to do so. By starting a small daily practice…reminding myself of what I am now caring about.

img_7071Inspired by friends who shared their daily “gratitude practice” in this season of Thanksgiving, I created something I think will work for me. Since a “daily” practice is new for me, we’ll see if I can maintain it in a way that nourishes.  I’ve selected three questions which my readers will undoubtedly recognize, ones which either remind me or serve to acknowledge that I’m moving in the direction of choice as a woman soon to be 77.  They are:

  1. How am I living fully?
  2. How am I aging gracefully?
  3. How am I befriending my death?

Yesterday’s answers WERE nourishing: Continue reading

What’s So for You?


The leaves are falling, the colors changing. Today I felt the chill of winter in my bones, while at the same time welcoming the warmth of finally “knowing.” My recent public “gigs” on Third Chapter Mastery™ have deepened my commitment to create spaces where those over 60 can give themselves permission to prepare for their remaining years. I want to bring clarity and courage and a regret-free third chapter life to all those who seek that result for themselves.  That’s my mission. That’s “what’s so” for me.

As I speak to groups, I note among participants a real hunger to articulate the queries that arise as they face this gift of longevity as the unexpected phenomenon it has been. “How will I navigate these next 20 or 30 or more, years?” Continue reading

The Bucket List

So many things to think about….or just allow.

F54E2E6D-D516-4214-AA38-A1905408A957My sister-in-law came over to enjoy a swim the other day with 3 of my 6 grandchildren in tow. She immediately launched into a conversation about her “bucket list” successes. Seems that she had been having a blast doing some of the things she wanted to, while she still had the energy at 73.

She had checked off jet skiing, zip lining, and parasailing. D777B9F9-D6CA-4F04-92B1-054443076023Still to come,
someday, is jumping out of a plane. While none of these activities reside on my bucket list,  I am incurably delighted when I hear of others getting to do what they deeply want. Continue reading